Save the guilt trip

By Eric Morken

Eric Morken

Eric Morken

It doesn’t quite seem right. I asked if I could write a hunting column for the Echo Press this fall. I was given permission, but, was also asked to write a column for a new women’s publication called Chicz.

So here I am, an outdoor/sports reporter and every woman’s go-to for how to keep their man happy. I dare you to find a journalist with a broader range of expertise.

If these first few paragraphs don’t instill much confidence in my know-how, be comforted in the fact that I am married. My wife and I dated through college and made it through two years of living four hours apart before tying the knot on October 30, 2010. We are expecting a late Christmas present this winter with our first child being due on New Year’s Eve.

There are a lot of reasons why I wanted to spend the rest of my life with Mali, but one thing that stood out about her was how accommodating she has been throughout our relationship. I have always had other passions in my life and she understood that and allowed me to pursue them.

In college, it was about spending time with friends. I never wanted to be the guy who disappeared from the social scene when he got a girlfriend. I wanted the whole college experience of meeting new people and taking advantage of opportunities on campus. Mali was much more reserved in social settings, but she understood the proper balance of us spending time together and having other lives outside of our relationship.

“a girl who wants to be with you but doesn’t have to be with you is attractive.”

Don’t underestimate how important that is to most guys. A girl who wants to be with you but doesn’t have to be with you is attractive. It’s ideal when both have passions they are able to pursue as individuals. I love knowing I can go on a hunting trip and Mali can spend time with friends and family doing what she likes to do. Guys hate embarking on an adventure with guilt lingering in the back of their mind.

So remember to save the guilt-trip for things that really matter. That way, we’ll know for sure when we’re thinking of doing something stupid.

Eric Morken is a husband, soon-to-be-father, sports reporter and outdoor enthusiast.

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